[…] It forces us to feel the pain, to bend over – something that completely contradicts my nature. It is above all an act of acceptance, and as any alcoholic with more than a few months knows, “Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.” […] Emotional (and not just logical) acceptance of one`s own alcoholism is essential to recover and prevent relapses. Peer support is also an important part of acceptance. Then, after accepting your impotence, you can proceed to change what you can (which is in your area of control). Shakespeare said, “The whole world is a stage, and all men and women are just players.” He forgot to mention that I was the main critic. I`ve always been able to see the fault in every person, in every situation. And I was always happy to point that out because I knew they wanted perfection, just like me. ==References==and acceptance have taught me that there is a little good in the worst of us and a little evil in the best of us; that we are all children of God and that we all have the right to be here. When I complain about myself or you, I complain about God`s work. I say I know better than God. “Recovery is an acceptance that your life is in ruins and you need to change.” – Jamie Lee Curtis Acceptance is such an important part of addiction recovery that it is actually used as a specific therapy. Known as acceptance and commitment therapy, this form of treatment consists of six basic processes that use mindfulness techniques to promote and deepen acceptance. Mindfulness and acceptance go hand in hand because it`s about being present in the present moment and leaving the world as it is.
According to researchers at Duke University: Through professional counseling or therapy (individual, group, or both), a person can learn to recognize these inappropriate emotional coping strategies and where they come from (for example, by exploring unconscious childhood memories). Then he or she can develop healthy strategies that promote acceptance, such as . B develop a positive state of mind. On the other hand, emotional non-acceptance of alcoholism, supported by denial, guilt, fighting or fleeing the disease, puts a person at high risk of relapse, even if a person can rationally accept the disease. Other signs of emotional non-acceptance may include feelings of anger or shame regarding the development of alcoholism. Fear and self-pity are two other emotions that prevent acceptance and peace of mind. When we allow ourselves to live in the present moment and perceive what is not happening critically, we begin to understand the concept of acceptance and move towards happiness. This includes not only logical acceptance of what is happening, but also emotional acceptance.
Once you realize the importance of acceptance in managing an alcohol use disorder, it`s important that you reach out to each other and get help if you haven`t already. Fortunately, there are a number of treatment options available to you. The first step should be to talk to your GP. They can help you get a diagnosis, referrals for treatment and if other medications or psychiatric care are needed. In order to bring a little serenity into my life, I keep coming back to this “Acceptance is the answer to all my problems… » Previous. I need to meditate on it and try to apply it to my daily life. Thank you for sharing everyone! Büssing A, Matthiessen PF, Mundle G. Emotional and rational acceptance of the disease in patients with depression and alcohol dependence. Health and quality of life.
2008 Dec 1;6(1):4. doi:10.1186/1477-7525-6-4 What I struggle with when it comes to accepting is that acceptance does not automatically lead to tolerating the act. A lot of food for thought. Thank you for sharing. And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. If I`m disturbed, it`s because I find a person, place, thing or situation – a fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can`t find serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as exactly as it should be at that time. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens accidentally in God`s world. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I couldn`t stay sober; If I don`t fully accept life on the terms of life, I can`t be happy.
I don`t need to focus so much on what needs to be changed in the world, but on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. Hartl J, Scherer MN, Loss M, Schnitzbauer A, Farkas S, Baier L, Szecsey A, Schoelmerich J, Schlitt HJ, Kirchner GI. Strong predictors of alcohol relapse after liver transplantation: non-acceptance of the alcohol problem and abstinence of< 3 months. Scandinavian Journal of Gastroenterology. 2011 Oct 1;46(10):1257-66. doi:10.3109/00365521.2011.603160 If you are having trouble accepting alcoholism, we strongly recommend that you check your local Alcoholics Anonymous organization or register at an inpatient or outpatient treatment center. Seek treatment sooner or later, as alcohol use disorder tends to worsen if left unchecked. This short passage on acceptance is perhaps one of the most cited passages in the recovery literature. It comes from the 4th edition of Alcoholics Anonymous or The Big Book as it is widely known.
According to one study, participation in an alcohol addiction support group had a strong impact on whether or not a person was able to emotionally accept their alcohol addiction. In the same study, a positive attitude also greatly influenced the acceptance of the disease. Through professional counseling, therapy, or a visit from Alcoholics Anonymous, people can learn to recognize when they deny the reality of alcohol use. Usually, this is due to poor decision-making and adaptability developed in adolescence. .